Start Escorting

Becoming an escort is a decision that a lot of women have contemplated, more than you’d ever guess. Not once in my 6 years of escorting did I ever tell any of my friends or family about the fact that I was an escort, and although I had a few close calls – no one ever found out. However the amount of women that contacted me through my escort website asking me for advice or with different questions was seriously in the 100’s, out of those 100’s only about 25 of them ever became escorts, and out of those 25 most of them only escorted for a couple months and then quit once they had made enough money. However after becoming friends with several escorts in the business, I was always shocked at the different types of women who became escorts or considered being an escort. They are your best friend, your daughter, your mother, your cousin, that girl you went to high school with etc. Escorts are not drug addicts, they are not all people who were sexually abused, they are not head cases. There are a lot of empowered and self confident women who take to escorting for a variety of reasons.

Is escorting for me?

The first thing you need to do is be able to ask yourself if escorting is for you? There are a lot of women who are sexually liberated and very open minded however after escorting once or twice they can’t handle some of the situations they encounter. I’ve also met some people who you would assume are soft spoken, and excuse me, but push-overs… and they end up being the ones who are the most successful and happiest with their decision. With that being said it’s not something that any one else can decide for you, the best thing you can do is picture yourself in different situations and imagine how you’d react to them. If you make a fully educated decision to go ahead with being an escort, and it doesn’t work out – hey, you tried. That’s OK. Read the page on – is escorting for me?

How Long Should I Be An Escort For?

Once you’ve decided you want to give it a try, I always recommend you figure out how long you want to be an escort for. If you decide you want to escort for the summer, and if it goes well you will continue, that’s OK. But at the end of summer sit down with yourself and remind yourself that you were going to make a decision at this point whether or not you wanted to continue escorting. Treat the decision to continue the same as when you first started. There’s many reasons to set goals, and different kinds of goals you can set.. but the most important part is making sure you do it. The details don’t matter, it’s all about the bigger idea of tracking your progress. Read the page on – how long should I be an escort for?

Work As An Independent Escort or Agency Escort

If you know you want to become an escort, you’ve set some goals, now it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty and decide if you want to work as an independent escort or work for an escort agency. These are two very different types of setups and there’s pros and cons for working for both. I will go through each of them and try to explain them to the best of my ability. I have worked as an independent escort for 5 years, but when I first started I worked for an escort agency and so I believe I have a good understanding of both. Once you’ve read over the pros and cons and have a solid understanding of them both, you can an educated decision on what’s best for you. Read the page on – work as an independent escort or agency escort?

Work As An Incall Escort or Outcall Escort

Whether you want to work as an incall escort or an outcall escort can be a difficult decision, like working for an agency or independent, there’s pros and cons to each of them. I have done both and will do my best to break down both of them. Incall means the client comes to you where as outcall means you go to the clients home or hotel room. You might end up deciding to offer both, as I eventually did. However whatever you decide there are definitely some things you’ll want to know before making your decision and that’s what this page is all about. Fully explaining every aspect of both incall escorts and outcall escorts and then making an informed decision on what works best for you. If you work for an escort agency they may be an incall escort agency, or an outcall agency and therefor they’ve essentially made the decision for you. It’s better to make the decision and then pursue agencies you want to work for, rather than the other way around. Read the page on – work as an incall escort or work as an independent escort?

Now the above should sum up all of your concerns about becoming an escort, but I’ll continue adding more and more content to this site as I get emails and feedback from everyone. I am always trying to cover every single topic I can, but naturally I forget or overlook some stuff. Anyway, once you’ve decided you want to become an escort, you can move onto to the section Escorts Marketing. Now that you’ve decided to become an escort you still need to know what the do’s and don’ts are. Unfortunately being beautiful (inside/out/both) isn’t enough, you also have to be savvy and smart. Being the best mechanic doesn’t ensure success as an auto body shop, being the best masseuse doesn’t ensure success as a masseuse and some of the most beautiful models in the world aren’t working right now, while less deserving models are raking in the cash. It’s the way of the world. Go to the section on Escort Marketing.

31 thoughts on “Start Escorting

  1. Great site! I’m thrilled I found it! Truthfully, can someone be too old to become an escort? I’m in my thirties, and while I look a bit young for my age, I know I cannot compete with a woman in her twenties (looks anyway). Is there a market for ‘older’ escorts? Also, like with modeling, is there a standard size/height to even be considered by an agency? (I’m average height, healthy weight).

    • Thank you, glad you like the site.

      There is no cut off age, nor height nor weight. Some agencies might only want to hire escorts that fit into certain ranges, and there’s nothing you can do about that however there is work out there for escorts of all ages and sizes. Just take some sexy pictures and send off a couple emails to agencies you think you’d like to work for and see what the feedback is like.

      Good luck :)

    • Oh your comment did make me smile, escorts can be any age over 18. I’m 64, have worked for over 10 years and still in demand. It’s not looks or age, it’s your ability to make a man feel wonderful and giving him the excitement and fantasy of meeting you. Clients often have sexual problems and need reassurance, this is why they come to you. An escort service is something a client could never experience with a girlfriend.

  2. Wow im SOOO happy i found your site. You have truly answered almost all the questions racing through my head. However im scared. Not so much about doing the job but more so on getting caught. Im Married and come from a christian family. I can honestly say that i would ONLY be doing this for the pay. I was working 2 jobs and my pay was next to nothing. To make it worse the second job i picked up just laid me off due to being overstaffed. My husband and i are trying to move into a home and start a family. It seems we’ve been trying to save for years, but its so hard when you’re living month to month. Im scared to do this and have my husband find out. No amount of Money is worth loosing him. Im scared he will wonder where the extra money is coming from or why im getting so many calls. Im not sure i would know how to keep him from questioning me. I’ve asked him before his opinions about escorting and lets just say he didnt have the nicest things to say, but his opinions aside, Ill do anything right now to bring in some money for us to make ends meet.

    Can you please offer me some advise?
    Thank you so much
    Megan

    • I’m glad you liked the site. My honest opinion is if no money is worth losing your husband, don’t do this. It’s not worth it in your situation. You need to find another way to make ends meet. Now, if you’re dead set on doing it – the best advice I can offer is getting a new cell phone. Do NOT use your regular cell phone. Your phone will be ringing off the hook at all hours of the night including text messages, if your husband answers the clients won’t simply hang up they’ll ask for you or even worse ask to book an appointment with you, etc. Last but not least once that number is published on the internet as a contact number for an escort, it will be very hard to get it off the internet. If your husband does a search on Google for your phone number he will see what you’ve been up to. Next piece of advice would be to line up a solid explanation that is plausible. Treat this like a regular job with a set schedule, don’t leave the house for a 1 hour outcall at 11pm because you need the money. Set a schedule during the day, offer incalls at a hotel which is located near business offices and stick to your schedule. Tell your husband that you’ve found a job through a friend – something he will believe and while you’re at work – he thinks you’re at work. Don’t try to hold down a 9-5 and also moonlight as an escort unless you can explain why you’re out of the house at those hours. When you’re at home turn off your work phone and hide it well. Last but not least, obviously don’t post pictures with your face in it. Once a picture goes online it’s almost impossible to take it down. Post pictures that are flattering but non revealing.

  3. This story might be too long and unrelated a bit to the post but i hope moderator would consider it posting as i think might be helpfull as well!! thanks I started this profession in London as i was out on money . First, i started in a parlour — wasnt making money at all!! Than i made some photos — i luckily found a guy who made it for free than and started in escort agency. It wasnt brilliant but immproving!! After some time, i ve found myself makeing more and more money ( for ex. the initial booking would be 1h than i extended for 4-5 or even more depending). However, i started using cocaine, alcohool i was using even before and on ocassion i ended being hit by a lady on a booking on my face- the scar i still have!! I came back home, have had a panic attack due to cocaine usage probably and ended in hospital. After that i felt great, i started working as teacher , enjoyed my job and was more liberated in life. Durring summer i came back 2 London and was doing just great — no alcohol or drug abuse although, than somehow i went back again to my country — I dont know why either!! just came!! and started escorting in Greece which is near by. Great !!! I was independent, every weekend enjoying in the hotels, making really good money, made a new website/ photos , and was expanding more and more!!! I simply got addicted to it!! I was still working as teacher but hardly waited to come friday and go to Greece, so i gave a quit in my job. The unfortunate moment was that i wasnt able to find a flat — i live in a very small town, almost village and got very frustrated and agitated as my parents were looking over the windows when going on bookings and have had arguments with them. After one severe argument , i escaped from home , went 2 a hotel but they kept calling persistently with my shrink to come back and speak to him . I was relaxed, nothing really mattered to me , i thought i ve reached the point in escorting where i can go for ages and be on the top of the list and nothing could have broke me down !! But they ultimately kept me in hospital , after which i exited completely new!! I started to get scared to go to bookings — even regulars, have always said im unavailable, removed the ad from the site and keep using my money to recover . This and that everything was included. But it was awful, degrading!!!I was going with some really bad people and before I was accustomed on gentleman behavior and good treatment. I ended up suicidal and without much finances — largerly becouse of the drug and the travelling i had to make and excessive spending. I have still have demand ,but just dont go , I dont know what im going 2 do for 1h. My face anymore is not that of escort and im shaked over!! I was considering going to Amsterdam and working in windows but its far to degrading for me as i was used to a different style . On top of it im jobless so the money goes by quickly…Ohhh, please just tell me any advice and opinion if can on what to do!! For certain I was a good escort and one in demand, im 29 now still got the looks although due to not regular excersise i feel physically weaken , but i have such a big afraid of a client not being satisfied with me and eventually leaving me without my fee. I know how this bussiness works, have had been on many levels and learned a lot so damn i want and have to give it a try but not sure, what u think??

    • I hope this doesn’t sound judgmental but you need to get your life straightened out before you get back into escorting. You casually mentioned your therapist calling you, family following you, being in the hospital, etc. These issues are way beyond anything I’m able to comment on or offer advice. I wish you the best though :)

  4. I love the site. I also need some advice. I have a boyfriend and we’re both working but all of our bills are behind, my car just gave up on me and so we’ve been sharing a car. I have been thinking about escorting for years and I feel like now would be the perfect time but at the same time , he’s soooo against that and I’m not sure how I will get around being that we share cars! Also I wanted to know if you have your own agency where women like I guess work under you?

    • If your boyfriend doesn’t want you to do it, and you don’t want to break up wit him.. then it doesn’t sound like it’s the perfect time to do it.

      No, I don’t have an agency. I am completely out of the business. :)

  5. Hi :) This website is truly helpful. I was wondering if there is any possible way in which you could assist me with help to becoming an escort?

    Please and thank you! cely

  6. Hi Love.
    I’ve been researching a lot about becoming an Escort and i found this site so helpful. But i still have a few questions.

    1) If your meeting with a client (and your face to face) and he/she asks about your name (whether along the lines of- is this your real name? Or what is your real name) what things do you reply to them?

    2) I was thinking of going straight into my own escort (by myself) and i was wondering if when a client talks to you on the phone or by e-mail, can you ask them to met you for coffee or something so you can talk about the booking and everything (just to see them and how they present themselves so you know of there shady or not)

    3) Also what do you do with the money like when you put it in the bank? Dont they wonder why your bank savings have gone up so much all of a sudden?

    4) And another question (sorry) would you recommend creating your own website when you become an escort?

    Thank you for all of your help!
    – Belle May

    • Hi Babe,

      1) If they ask for your real name I wouldn’t give it to them. I would make something up and if they ask to see your ID or to prove it etc just let them know you have boundaries you’re not willing to cross, and they need to respect those boundaries. Most clients will understand, the ones who don’t are an obvious red flag.

      2) I’m sure there would be a lot of guys who would love a freebie (even it is just for coffee). If you want to do that your first couple times, I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with it but once you get more experienced I doubt you’ll find the need to do it.

      3) You need to have a cover story, you mow lawns, babysit, run a consulting agency etc :)

      4) Yes, if you`re an independent escort I think a website is a must. Check the Escort Marketing section, there`s a page on Internet Marketing.

      Hope that helps.

      xoxo

  7. Hey, I think I’ve read about everything. There was just 2 things I didn’t see. I have done this before, but been researching bc there are some areas I could use some help in. Which I found very helpful here. So when and how do you take payment? Some men will lay it on the table or to you as soon as they get there. Others dont. So how do you let them know you need donation? Then is it possible to work for an agency and privately?

    • For donation, it’s always best to tell them beforehand to put it on the bathroom counter. This gives them a chance to go to the washroom near the beginning of the date and freshen up. Once it’s in the washroom you can go in there, count it privately, put it safely in your purse and the money never exchanges hands in a business like fashion. In the event they don’t immediately offer the money, get it out of the way as soon as possible. Don’t let things drag on. For example, if you’re on an outcall when you come in the room take a peak in the bathroom and if you don’t see it there say something like “I want to go freshen up in the washroom, let’s take care of the donation so we can get it out of the way” if they whip out the money and start counting it off then lean into them, put your hand on their shoulder and tell them “I have a better idea baby, why don’t you go into the bathroom first, freshen up and leave it on the counter for me.” Give them a kiss on the cheek or rub their crotch with your hand (over their pants) so that they don’t feel like you’re all business. Being flirty and playful puts them at ease and when you take charge like that 99% of guys will happily do whatever you say.

  8. I almost forgot the other question :) but if you are staying in a hotel room what about cameras? Do they not become suspicious about multiple men coming in your room?

    • Not really. Again it depends on the area, if you’re in a small town in the bible belt then I don’t know, but for the most part if you’re in an upscale hotel in a metropolitan area you should be fine. When I was working there was a couple hotels that the manager obviously knew what I was doing and didn’t appreciate it, and he made it known with a couple glares here and there and I just stopped going there. Most managers at hotels or front desk receptionists wouldn’t dare accuse you of anything, so they try and make their point more subtly. If they do, just respect it and move on to somewhere else that appreciates your business.

  9. Hello, I’ve just began considering escorting and I’m very serious about however I am in college. Do you have any suggestions on how I can make it work? And I don’t know how much to charge. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

    • One of the best things about escorting is you can set your own hours. Just figure out how much free time you have and when you will have it and go from there. As for how much to charge, I would look at what other ladies in your city are charging and go from there. If the majority charge between $200 and $300, and there are some above and some below, I would start at $200 and work your way up. As soon as you have a full schedule at $200/hour, raise it to $250 or $300. Repeat the process until your schedule is no longer filling up :) Good luck!

  10. I really want to start doing this, not as a career and not quitting my day job, maybe just taking an extra day off and maybe just 3-4 clients a week…any advice on whether I should go with a company for that or alone. I’m confident I could do it on my own and have read this whole website. Could set up my own website whatever, just don’t know if that is necessary for such small volume? Is this feasible at all?

    • It’s just a matter of whether or not you want to do the extra work. Doing the marketing, booking your calls, screening clients etc all takes times. If you can fit that into your schedule and do it on your own, then why not? But if you want to spend your “working” time actually “working” then it may make sense to go with an agency, at least to start.

  11. Hey! This site has been so far really helpful as I am a starting escort. I have a question though, how do you leave once the time is over? Do you allow yourself 5-10 minutes beforehand to shower and get ready to leave or is this once the full hour/2hours/ etc is over? And what do you say to the client? Are they normally also keeping track of time and know when you’re going to leave etc?

    • I would say it just depends on the client and how the date is going. There’s some clients who once they are done will let you know you can leave, and it’s usually best to rather than lingering. On the other hand if you’re having a good time and the client is a sweetheart, why rush out the door? I would usually have a 15 minute alarm that goes off in my head. if the date is an hour and I stay for an hour and fifteen minutes, it’s not the end of the world. If it’s 45 minutes into the date and not much is happening, again, it’s not the end of the world if you go take a shower. But in that situation if he’s a nice client and someone you want to see again, invite him to come take a shower with you and spend that time together. :)

  12. This was very informative and I enjoyed reading the comments. First things first. I am a male, and recently found out my wife has been escorting for 2 months to make money to pay off her student loans. We have been happily married for 4 years with 2 young kids. When I first found out I was extremely devastated and heart broken. I initially thought she was having an affair, so when I heard her reasoning I was somewhat relieved to find out she still loved me and didn’t want to lose me. This has been 2 weeks so far. After a long discussion, I agreed to let her keep doing this part-time for 3-4 days per month. I established some ground rules, but I am still having some trust issues. I still cannot get over the idea of other guys having sex with my wife. She assured me that the sex was brief, meaningless, and she didn’t enjoy it or even climax. She also assured me that there would be no kissing, passionate sex, or anything that I feel is intimate and only shared by us. She has told me over and over again that she wouldn’t allow this, but I still can’t imagine someone paying $500-$1000 for time/sex and being told they can’t kiss her breasts or anything like that. I have read the reviews on TER and they are very graphic and detailed. I have confronted her about them and she claims they are extremely exaggerated and these guys have to post graphic details to maintain membership status. I am OK with her doing this as long as this type of “rough” or “intimate” sex doesn’t happen, but I fear that she wouldn’t tell me if it did. Am I worrying too much about this? I know she loves me, but I fear that my insecurities could lead to our marriage failing.

    • Wow I feel so sorry for you sweetheart. I hate to be the one to tell you this but in my opinion the reviews are accurate, your wife has been lying to you to either spare your feeling to keep you on board. Where you go from here is up to you though. Good luck.

  13. How much do escorts pay to rent an incall flat? do they pay a percentage of their takings or just a flat rent? Is it different if they live there or just rent it to work?

    Thanks

    • It completely depends on where you are, but you would typically rent a place or perhaps share a place with another escort to split the costs and run your business out of there. Where I am from there are no designated places for escorts to rent. In other words, you pay the going rent on any flat, there is special going rate for escort flats.

  14. Thank you for your informative blog. it has been very eyeopening.

    I have a question from a man’s curiosity about becoming an escort…
    is there a market for men to become escorts to provide a service for women?
    If yes! is it as lucrative as it if being a female escort.
    i have been thinking about taking the leap in the the escort arena for a short time of one year to see where it goes.
    Do you have any advice for me?…….I am in Toronto Canada.

    • No, there isn’t. There are some men who provide escorting services but they charge much less and it’s a once in a while kind of job, not an every day pay-the-rent kind of job. If you are attractive with athletic build and well endowed, I would recommend you look into stripping. Again, it’s not very lucrative but if you do stags it can be a decent side income.

      • Just a lil info from one of my consultants…

        My name is Dee and I have worked as a male escort on and off for quite some time. She was absolutely right when she said that there is not as much of a market for men as there is for women. HOWEVER, if you are built the way she described and considered eye candy for women, then there are a few newer websites offering male companionship exclusively. These sites have been featured on international TV shows which has brought more attention to the market and created a much more acceptable atmosphere for women who contract with male escorts. All in all, there is a ton more business for a man nowadays than there was even 5 years ago. I personally know a number of men who support their lifestyle strictly with escorting dollars, and they live pretty comfortably! I would suggest you start with a website called: “cowboysforangels.com”. They are considered the industry leader. FYI, the men they hire are all male model types. These guys look like they belong on magazine covers (or pull-out pictorials!)
        I recommend this site because even if they are not interested in bringing you aboard, they are helpful with steering you in the right direction. They have no problem helping you find employment somewhere. It’s an obvious business strategy move; they corner all of the “babe-a-licious” guys they can find and send everyone else to their competitors, but if it helps you get work, who cares? Good Luck!

        • While none of what you said is false, I just want to say that (1) The poster said he was in Canada, while this site only hires people from the States. (2) The website itself says that the male escorts should be gainfully employed — implying that they don’t expect applicants to earn a living wage on a regular basis. (3) While I do no doubt that there are some male escorts who make a living, like Nick Hawk who has a TV show to promote his services or Marcus Bagwell who is an ex-professional wrestler who gets most of his business from his prior fame. I know many, many, many more male escorts who have never had a single client. Who pay for advertising on directories, hire designs/programmers to make websites, photographers to do professional pictures, etc and never end up getting a single client. Anyone reading this who wants to become a male escort, my unequivocal advice is to forget about it and move on. I don’t mean to be harsh, I just think replies like the one above, while factually accurate, are entirely misleading.

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